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Awkward Moments

Sun, 30 May 2010 09:43:57 GMT

My fiance and I have been together for almost five years. We lived together for three years in an apartment before deciding to move with his parents to save money before the wedding. I am going to be 28 and he is 31. Needless to say we aren't teens, and we've passed the "point of no return" from our early twenties. Yesterday, his parents went out, and we kind of felt safe to have sex. No one was supposed to be around for a while. Just as we were getting to the end of it, and after some explicit words, and a lot of "oh baby"s with the bed creaking, all of witch was not loud, but of course it wasn't quiet either, we hear whistling from the kitchen. "I think your Dads home." "I think he is too." Awkwardness. Of course we tried to dissect wether he could really heard us, since he was a little hard of hearing, and our door was closed, but we came to the ultimate conclusion that he probably had. And since he would probably never bring it up,and we of course would never want to discuss it, we will probably never if he did or not. Has anyone ever accidently heard you having sex, or even worse, walked in on you?

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Sun, 30 May 2010 09:42:56 GMT

It's Tradition

Sun, 14 Mar 2010 10:09:25 GMT

I'm getting married Dec 2010, and I recently I got my wedding dress. When I got home from the bridal shop that day, I asked my fiancee if he wanted to see it when I brought it home. He said no, he wanted to wait until our wedding day, until he saw me walking down the aisle. I was surprised, and it didn't even occur to me that people today still followed such a tradition. When I watch that show, Say Yes To The Dress, it constantly shows grooms going with the brides to pick out their dresses. It is a bit strange, but it does happen more often than you would think. What are your thoughts? How would you feel about your groom seeing your dress before the wedding? Are there are "traditions" that important to you in a relationship that have nothing to do with getting married?

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Thu, 16 Jul 2009 13:45:35 GMT

I was reading yesterday that Jessica Simpson and Tony Romo broke up. First of all, I don't really care for Jessica Simpson or her music, but I couldn't help feeling sorry for her. She just can't seem to find love and make it last. From Nick Lachey to John Mayer to Tony Romo, and whoever else has been between. Are some of us just destined to always be going from relationsip to relationship? Jennifer Lopez is another example. I believe shes already been married three time, and had several relationships that didn't make it to the alter. But aside from celebrities who have a hard time with relationships anyway, do you think that happy ever after with that one person for the rest of your life just isn't in the card for some of us?

Monday, July 06, 2009

Mon, 06 Jul 2009 20:22:30 GMT

When I went into work this morning, I found out that a husband of my coworker had died suddenly over the weekend of an aneurysm. They had been together since they were in high school, and he was 46 years old. I had never met him, but I had often heard her speak of him. She always smiled when she said his name, and always giggled like a teenager. Obviously, they were very much in love and had a happy marriage. Now, apparently, she's lost and a mess over the whole situation. This is something you can't prepare for. You never know when it's your last day with someone. I started to think about my own life and my fiancee and my family and everyone else that I care about. I began to think about the pain and heartache I would feel if that had happened to me. But it also struck hard that one day it will happen to me. I will lose someone I love and there is nothing that can be done about it. It's inevitable. I feel personally that the good times and moments I've had with my loved one's will make it worth it for me in the end when it's over, but what about others out there? Is there anyone who feels like getting attached and falling in love isn't worth it because nothing is forever? Or do we all pretty much agree that's it's better to love and lose then to have never loved at all?

Cautious

Sat, 27 Jun 2009 09:48:04 GMT

I was reading an article recently about prenuptial agreements. The article was stating that having a prenup these days is more acceptable and should be greatly considered. It went on to say that your future husband or wife shouldn't feel offended or get upset if you ask them to sign one since it's just a "what if" precaution. I was just wondering what you all thought of prenups. Do you think it takes away from the romance and the "forever" feeling getting married is supposed to have? If your very well off financially, would you ask your future husband or wife to sign one?

Insecure

Sat, 30 May 2009 14:54:44 GMT

I'm getting married in almost a year and a half, and the more I think about the wedding, the more anxiety I get. Not over getting married to my fiance, because he his wonderful, but over the wedding itself. I am not the kind of person who likes the be the center of attention. I much better off sitting off into a corner and observing things from a far. It scares me to think that all eyes will be on me. Is it normal to feel like this?

The ex at my wedding?

Sat, 23 May 2009 12:25:32 GMT

My ex and I broke up about six years ago. He didn't treat me right, and we were fighting all the time. We continued to hang out and talk after the breakup, and we agreed that we would invite each other to our future weddings. It didn't seem like such a big deal at the time, especially to me because I thought we would get back together. I was young at the time and naive, and didn't see how toxic it was to be with him. I've been with my fiancee for about fours years. Since that time, my correspondence with the ex has dropped down to nearly nothing. It's been impossible to continue being friends with him because, in a nutshell, he thinks I still have feelings for him. Witch is totally false. I will admit, it took me a while to get over him, I even talked about him when I first started seeing my fiancee. But I've moved on and I am in the most amazing relationship of my life.When I got engaged back in December I did tell my ex and we told me not to forget his invitation. As I look at my guest list, I can't help but be reminded of the promise we made. My fiancee is not the jealous type at all, and he knows I'm completely committed to him, but I'm hesitant about asking him if the ex should be invited. What do you think? Should I invite him? Would you invite your ex to your wedding?

Relationship Happiness

Thu, 21 May 2009 17:14:57 GMT

I have been with my fiancee for almost four years. We don't argue and we don't say mean things to each other or curse at each other. We are respectful to each other. We are very calm and get along great. I've always heard from others that you have to scream and yell at each other and get in huge fights for it to be healthy. But that's not how we are and we are very much in love and very happy. We do get angry at each other and we frustrate each other of course, we do live together so that's bound to happen. But we always work it out by talking it over and being honest with each other. We are going to be married Nov 2010. People find it hard to believe that we get along so well, and we've been with each other practically every day since our first date. I was with a guy for two years before I met my fiancee, and we fought all the time, and I cried everyday. I thought that's how relationships were supposed to be, but I was wrong. I just wanted to let people know that every relationship is different, and some people who have good relationships fight and argue all the time, but there are others out there who are also in good relationships who don't need the yelling and fighting to be happy.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Thu, 21 May 2009 17:05:32 GMT

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