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I was reading yesterday that Jessica Simpson and Tony Romo broke up. First of all, I don't really care for Jessica Simpson or her music, but I couldn't help feeling sorry for her. She just can't seem to find love and make it last. From Nick Lachey to John Mayer to Tony Romo, and whoever else has been between. Are some of us just destined to always be going from relationsip to relationship? Jennifer Lopez is another example. I believe shes already been married three time, and had several relationships that didn't make it to the alter. But aside from celebrities who have a hard time with relationships anyway, do you think that happy ever after with that one person for the rest of your life just isn't in the card for some of us?

When I went into work this morning, I found out that a husband of my coworker had died suddenly over the weekend of an aneurysm. They had been together since they were in high school, and he was 46 years old. I had never met him, but I had often heard her speak of him. She always smiled when she said his name, and always giggled like a teenager. Obviously, they were very much in love and had a happy marriage. Now, apparently, she's lost and a mess over the whole situation. This is something you can't prepare for. You never know when it's your last day with someone. I started to think about my own life and my fiancee and my family and everyone else that I care about. I began to think about the pain and heartache I would feel if that had happened to me. But it also struck hard that one day it will happen to me. I will lose someone I love and there is nothing that can be done about it. It's inevitable. I feel personally that the good times and moments I've had with my loved one's will make it worth it for me in the end when it's over, but what about others out there? Is there anyone who feels like getting attached and falling in love isn't worth it because nothing is forever? Or do we all pretty much agree that's it's better to love and lose then to have never loved at all?

Cautious

I was reading an article recently about prenuptial agreements. The article was stating that having a prenup these days is more acceptable and should be greatly considered. It went on to say that your future husband or wife shouldn't feel offended or get upset if you ask them to sign one since it's just a "what if" precaution. I was just wondering what you all thought of prenups. Do you think it takes away from the romance and the "forever" feeling getting married is supposed to have? If your very well off financially, would you ask your future husband or wife to sign one?

Insecure

I'm getting married in almost a year and a half, and the more I think about the wedding, the more anxiety I get. Not over getting married to my fiance, because he his wonderful, but over the wedding itself. I am not the kind of person who likes the be the center of attention. I much better off sitting off into a corner and observing things from a far. It scares me to think that all eyes will be on me. Is it normal to feel like this?

The ex at my wedding?

My ex and I broke up about six years ago. He didn't treat me right, and we were fighting all the time. We continued to hang out and talk after the breakup, and we agreed that we would invite each other to our future weddings. It didn't seem like such a big deal at the time, especially to me because I thought we would get back together. I was young at the time and naive, and didn't see how toxic it was to be with him. I've been with my fiancee for about fours years. Since that time, my correspondence with the ex has dropped down to nearly nothing. It's been impossible to continue being friends with him because, in a nutshell, he thinks I still have feelings for him. Witch is totally false. I will admit, it took me a while to get over him, I even talked about him when I first started seeing my fiancee. But I've moved on and I am in the most amazing relationship of my life.When I got engaged back in December I did tell my ex and we told me not to forget his invitation. As I look at my guest list, I can't help but be reminded of the promise we made. My fiancee is not the jealous type at all, and he knows I'm completely committed to him, but I'm hesitant about asking him if the ex should be invited. What do you think? Should I invite him? Would you invite your ex to your wedding?