I'm getting married Dec 2010, and I recently I got my wedding dress. When I got home from the bridal shop that day, I asked my fiancee if he wanted to see it when I brought it home. He said no, he wanted to wait until our wedding day, until he saw me walking down the aisle. I was surprised, and it didn't even occur to me that people today still followed such a tradition. When I watch that show, Say Yes To The Dress, it constantly shows grooms going with the brides to pick out their dresses. It is a bit strange, but it does happen more often than you would think. What are your thoughts? How would you feel about your groom seeing your dress before the wedding?  Are there are "traditions" that important to you in a relationship that have nothing to do with getting married?

When I went into work this morning, I found out that a husband of my coworker had died suddenly over the weekend of an aneurysm. They had been together since they were in high school, and he was 46 years old. I had never met him, but I had often heard her speak of him. She always smiled when she said his name, and always giggled like a teenager. Obviously, they were very much in love and had a happy marriage. Now, apparently, she's lost and a mess over the whole situation. This is something you can't prepare for. You never know when it's your last day with someone. I started to think about my own life and my fiancee and my family and everyone else that I care about. I began to think about the pain and heartache I would feel if that had happened to me. But it also struck hard that one day it will happen to me. I will lose someone I love and there is nothing that can be done about it. It's inevitable. I feel personally that the good times and moments I've had with my loved one's will make it worth it for me in the end when it's over, but what about others out there? Is there anyone who feels like getting attached and falling in love isn't worth it because nothing is forever? Or do we all pretty much agree that's it's better to love and lose then to have never loved at all?

I'm getting married in almost a year and a half, and the more I think about the wedding, the more anxiety I get. Not over getting married to my fiance, because he his wonderful, but over the wedding itself. I am not the kind of person who likes the be the center of attention. I much better off sitting off into a corner and observing things from a far. It scares me to think that all eyes will be on me. Is it normal to feel like this?